11 Fun (and Sexy) Things to Do with a Man

"Ultimately, fun is the best aphrodisiac," says Paul Joannides, author of The Guide to Getting It On! "Quit looking for sexy, and look for fun instead—and you'll end up having more sex."

We like the way this guy thinks. That's why we brainstormed these adventures (with some help from sex experts and our male friends). To get more sex. For you. Call it our little community service project.






Take him shopping

. . . and let him pick the clothes.
Men don't hate shopping because of the money. It's the sitting on the boyfriend couch at Banana Republic that they don't like. But what guy wouldn't be enthused about a mall trip if he knew that every 2 minutes a beautiful woman would pop by to model a sexy outfit he just picked out?

"Men love to enhance their erotic experience visually, so if a women is willing to play exhibitionist, it should work like a charm," says Carol Queen, Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Shy. If he agrees to buy, there's no reason you shouldn't agree to model.








Get naked!

Pour peppermint schnapps in your belly button. Have him sip it. Then have him kiss your breasts and blow on the spots he kissed. The peppermint schnapps and air combine for a cool sensation that heightens arousal, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a Los Angeles sex therapist.

Do some shopping at adult-toy Web sites and the grocery store. There's a whole world of flavors and textures—whipped cream, chocolate and fruit-flavored sauces, liqueurs — out there to play with. (Beware of oil-based products, such as many massage oils with coconut, which can eat away and break latex condoms.)











Dance!

Turn dancing into dirty dancing with an Audi-Oh Butterfly Vibrator, which pulsates to the speed and intensity of whatever beat is playing.

Wear the harness with butterfly vibe underneath your panties. Then bump and grind to throbbing music with him at a club, or play deejay at home. This is one remote you won't fight over ($80, Babeland).

Go to dinner

"During the meal, you're allowed to talk only about sexual fantasies," suggests Patricia Love, Ed.D., author of Hot Monogamy. "There's something very erotic about being public and being surreptitious about your sexuality."

Bonus mission: Order foods that are delicious and lascivious at the same time. Share a chocolate mousse in a martini glass for dessert. "Chocolate produces PEA (phenylethylamine), a natural amphetamine that creates feelings of euphoria, especially during orgasm," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

Get cooking

"It's an opportunity to create something special as a couple," says celebrity chef and restaurateur Bobby Flay. "So the crème brûlèe doesn't set. Who cares? It's just the two of you." Make an entire dinner that can be eaten with your fingers, and then feed your lover.

For dessert, Dr. Queen suggests "putting a berry or chocolate truffle in your mouth and kissing your lover to share it." Food fights can also be frisky, fun, and sexy — as long as you're willing to clean up after.

Challenge Him to Strip-PlayStation 3

What's more fun than dropping in on your guy's football game, intercepting a pass, and scoring the winning touchdown? "You don't have to be into S&M to find power and competition erotic," says Dr. Queen. Remove a piece of clothing every time you score.

"The reason this works is because it eroticizes something ordinary." For the ultimate in heated competition, try ESPN NFL 2K8. The combination of sexy cheerleaders and hotties like Patriots quarterback Tom Brady is sure to spark some one-on-one action.

Get naked again!

Make your own art — on each other. Pick up a chocolate tattoo set ($15, Early to Bed). The creative kit includes a jar of chocolate body frosting, stencil sheets, and a paintbrush. Lick off.













Star in your own sex video

Shoot yourself while you're alone, and upload your own porn flick onto your computer. Then call him over to the screen to show him this, um, really cool Web site you just found. He'll think he's dating Paris Hilton.

Not so tech savvy? Use your camera phone to beam him a few peek-a-boo surprises. "From Pamela and Tommy Lee to the folks next door, DIY porn is hot," says Dr. Queen. And if you ever plan to run for Senate, just make sure you know where all the copies are stashed.











Pretend he's a stranger

This is a great way to spice up your sex life without going outside your relationship for extra ingredients. "Remember that our brain is really our biggest sex organ, and we want to stimulate our creativity and imagination as much as possible," says Dr. Kerner.

Have your guy try to pick you up at a bar. He might even enjoy watching you flirt with other guys as long as he knows you're coming home with him. "Whenever a guy knows that his woman is the object of desire to another guy, it's a turn-on," says Dr. Kerner.











Get wet

Ask him to help you wash the dishes, and then start a water fight. "Water fights might be even better than food fights," says Dr. Kerner.

Studies have shown that when couples do physical chores together, it can lead to sex in new places at different times, according to Dr. Kerner.

Get all wet washing the car together, and while you're at it, rediscover the backseat.

Just make out

Have a make-out date at least an hour long, says Joannides, with no below-the-belt contact. It's fun, teenage-style!