Jennifer Benjamin
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You may be neglecting one of your body's biggest pleasure receptors--your skin. Learn the touch techniques that will boost your fun in bed
The body parts that receive the most attention in bed are the genitals—and for good reason. But one of your most potent sex organs covers you from head to toe: your skin. With a surface area of about 15 feet (give or take a few inches), your flesh is packed with sensitive nerve receptors, making it a major pleasure-inducing player. It flushes when you meet a hot guy, tingles when he touches you, and after just a few strokes, gets things stirring below deck.
Aside from the obvious benefits of sensual touch, there's an emotional component as well. "Skin-to-skin contact stimulates the production of the bonding hormone oxytocin and releases endorphins, which can enhance your feelings for someone," says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking.
What's more, total-body exploration can actually boost your lust for each other. According to Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sex educator at the Kinsey Institute, stimulating each other's skin increases sweat production, releasing natural scents that subconsciously draw you together. Here's how to make the most of skin-to-skin contact.
Enjoy Some Face Time
If you've ever had a luxurious spa facial, you know that gentle face stimulation can be almost as satisfying as a full-body treatment. The nose, eyelids, and lips are among the most sensitive spots on the body because they are thin-skinned and boast a higher concentration of nerves.So treat each other to some soothing face strokes. Sit cross-legged while he lies on his back with his head on your lap. With your index and middle fingers, trace a firm line from his forehead, down his temples, and along his jaw, bringing your fingers together at his chin. Next, make small concentric circles over the apples of his cheeks and around his eyes, gently grazing his lids. Finally, take the pad of your index finger and run it over his lips. You'll stimulate his delicate flesh, boosting blood flow and sensitivity.
Strip Each Other Down
Disrobing is a requisite part of foreplay, but it's also an opportunity to engage in tactile touch. Take turns sliding off each other's clothes slowly and deliberately. "As the garments fall from your body, you'll feel a grazing, tickling sensation, exciting the nerve endings in a new way," says Patti Britton, Ph.D., author of The Art of Sex Coaching. "The feel of air on your bare skin and the material sliding off your body will give you a sensory rush, and of course you'll feel more intimate from being naked together."
Lighten Up
A deep, relaxing precoital massage is nice and all, but for something novel, explore barely there touch. A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience says that when hairy sections of skin are slowly stroked, the movement stimulates the C-tactile nerves, a set of specific pleasure fibers.Run your fingers up and down each other's arms and along the napes of your necks. (Avoid the genitals for now. As you become more aroused, that area needs firmer stimulation, so a light, ticklish touch can feel uncomfortable.) These soft caresses have a mutually beneficial side effect, says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex. For both the giver and the receiver, light touching activates the parasympathetic nervous system, inducing a relaxed state.
Shock Your Senses
Pump up the pleasure factor by closing your eyes while he caresses you from head to toe. "When you shut off one sense, such as sight, your sense of touch goes crazy trying to compensate," says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of MyPleasure.com. Plus, when you can't see what will happen next, the anticipation will awaken your nerves, making your skin respond more intensely to physical contact." So kill the lights during foreplay or tie on blindfolds for an erotic experience.
Explore the Almost-Zones
How does your brain get the memo that sex is on the menu? "Particular areas of skin have specific receptors that transmit messages to the brain's sexual centers," says Sandra L. Blanton, Ph.D., a board-certified sex therapist in Florida. "Because touch is registered in the sexual center of the brain, it relays a message to the genitals to prepare for intercourse."While the genitals, nipples, and butt are go-to erogenous zones, areas such as the inner thighs, the small of the back, and under the belly button are super-responsive because of their proximity to the private parts. "The skin here is thin and sensitive, and when you are teasing that close to the genitals without actually touching them, you build anticipation, which amplifies your touch," Fulbright says. So lick your way down from his navel to his pubic bone. Then, just when you're almost at his goods, veer off and create a new path over his hip bone and along the crease of his thigh. Finally, gently suck the skin on his inner thigh; the flesh here responds to a stronger sucking motion, and the wetness will hint at other forms of oral play.
Feel a Little Pain
Sure, you cry out when getting a bikini wax. But during sex, a tiny bit of pain can feel surprisingly erotic. "As you become more aroused, your body releases endorphins that act as a natural pain reliever," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Passionista. "Plus, firmer touch causes blood to rush to those areas, heightening the response of your skin receptors." In other words, light spanking will actually feel good. Plus, the element of surprise will make it more exciting. So as you're gently tracing your fingers down his back, give him a little scratch with your fingernails or lightly pinch his sides. He'll finally know what it means to "hurt so good."
The body parts that receive the most attention in bed are the genitals—and for good reason. But one of your most potent sex organs covers you from head to toe: your skin. With a surface area of about 15 feet (give or take a few inches), your flesh is packed with sensitive nerve receptors, making it a major pleasure-inducing player. It flushes when you meet a hot guy, tingles when he touches you, and after just a few strokes, gets things stirring below deck.
Aside from the obvious benefits of sensual touch, there's an emotional component as well. "Skin-to-skin contact stimulates the production of the bonding hormone oxytocin and releases endorphins, which can enhance your feelings for someone," says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking.
What's more, total-body exploration can actually boost your lust for each other. According to Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sex educator at the Kinsey Institute, stimulating each other's skin increases sweat production, releasing natural scents that subconsciously draw you together. Here's how to make the most of skin-to-skin contact.
Enjoy Some Face Time
If you've ever had a luxurious spa facial, you know that gentle face stimulation can be almost as satisfying as a full-body treatment. The nose, eyelids, and lips are among the most sensitive spots on the body because they are thin-skinned and boast a higher concentration of nerves.So treat each other to some soothing face strokes. Sit cross-legged while he lies on his back with his head on your lap. With your index and middle fingers, trace a firm line from his forehead, down his temples, and along his jaw, bringing your fingers together at his chin. Next, make small concentric circles over the apples of his cheeks and around his eyes, gently grazing his lids. Finally, take the pad of your index finger and run it over his lips. You'll stimulate his delicate flesh, boosting blood flow and sensitivity.
Strip Each Other Down
Disrobing is a requisite part of foreplay, but it's also an opportunity to engage in tactile touch. Take turns sliding off each other's clothes slowly and deliberately. "As the garments fall from your body, you'll feel a grazing, tickling sensation, exciting the nerve endings in a new way," says Patti Britton, Ph.D., author of The Art of Sex Coaching. "The feel of air on your bare skin and the material sliding off your body will give you a sensory rush, and of course you'll feel more intimate from being naked together."
Lighten Up
A deep, relaxing precoital massage is nice and all, but for something novel, explore barely there touch. A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience says that when hairy sections of skin are slowly stroked, the movement stimulates the C-tactile nerves, a set of specific pleasure fibers.Run your fingers up and down each other's arms and along the napes of your necks. (Avoid the genitals for now. As you become more aroused, that area needs firmer stimulation, so a light, ticklish touch can feel uncomfortable.) These soft caresses have a mutually beneficial side effect, says Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex. For both the giver and the receiver, light touching activates the parasympathetic nervous system, inducing a relaxed state.
Shock Your Senses
Pump up the pleasure factor by closing your eyes while he caresses you from head to toe. "When you shut off one sense, such as sight, your sense of touch goes crazy trying to compensate," says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of MyPleasure.com. Plus, when you can't see what will happen next, the anticipation will awaken your nerves, making your skin respond more intensely to physical contact." So kill the lights during foreplay or tie on blindfolds for an erotic experience.
Explore the Almost-Zones
How does your brain get the memo that sex is on the menu? "Particular areas of skin have specific receptors that transmit messages to the brain's sexual centers," says Sandra L. Blanton, Ph.D., a board-certified sex therapist in Florida. "Because touch is registered in the sexual center of the brain, it relays a message to the genitals to prepare for intercourse."While the genitals, nipples, and butt are go-to erogenous zones, areas such as the inner thighs, the small of the back, and under the belly button are super-responsive because of their proximity to the private parts. "The skin here is thin and sensitive, and when you are teasing that close to the genitals without actually touching them, you build anticipation, which amplifies your touch," Fulbright says. So lick your way down from his navel to his pubic bone. Then, just when you're almost at his goods, veer off and create a new path over his hip bone and along the crease of his thigh. Finally, gently suck the skin on his inner thigh; the flesh here responds to a stronger sucking motion, and the wetness will hint at other forms of oral play.
Feel a Little Pain
Sure, you cry out when getting a bikini wax. But during sex, a tiny bit of pain can feel surprisingly erotic. "As you become more aroused, your body releases endorphins that act as a natural pain reliever," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Passionista. "Plus, firmer touch causes blood to rush to those areas, heightening the response of your skin receptors." In other words, light spanking will actually feel good. Plus, the element of surprise will make it more exciting. So as you're gently tracing your fingers down his back, give him a little scratch with your fingernails or lightly pinch his sides. He'll finally know what it means to "hurt so good."
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